Introduction

Online dating is one of the most major dating rituals these days. While some are lucky to find the love of their lives, most only find it as a portal for finding one-night stands, FWB (friends with benefits), or short time flings. After getting all sorts of really interesting messages from users of a popular dating site, I decided to write about some of the oddest and grossest messages I have received from users.

First this is a picture of me:

I went on the site hoping that I would find a suitable match and was shocked at some of the messages I was getting. So I looked at my profile, looked at my pictures, looked at my answers to questions that I had answered and tried to fix everything so people will know that I am looking for a relationship. The problem is I get even more people messaging me for a fun night or a 'playdate.'

So I decided to make this blog in hopes that maybe by ranting, I will not give up hope that I am 'undateable' material and maybe that there are others who share the same issues and can understand this.

So I guess I will just dive in. I will use made up nicknames for the guys or gals who sent me messages and will give a overview of their messages or our conversations instead of giving word by word account. The reason is to protect the rights of the individuals involved.

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The four worst messages today:

1. Nickname Mr.Normal , Age: early thirties

His opening statement: change your profile to normal, I can't be in a relationship with you if you are not clear on your sexuality respect the normality of the man and woman that had been around for centuries. 

He then continued to rant about some sexual stuff surrounding why he refuses to date anybody older than twenty because he likes tight. 

He ended with: But you I think are a seven in looks, the younger ones beat you in looks, you can't disagree with me there, And since you also debated with me so well I will give you a extra seven so I will still do you.

True I did say I liked to debate on my profile but he was just crude

2. Nickname: Whiny. Age: mid-twenties

This is proof that guys will say anything to get with a girl. He was the one who promised that he wanted a nice girl to settle down with and he was really motivated in being with one person and that he was serious about a relationship. Dated him for a while, went on many dates with him, finally I thought the time was right and we spent a nice night together...and then he stopped talking to me. So today, guess who contacted me.  

His opening statement: Hey remember that night we hooked up? Let's do it again...

And then keeps sending pleading messages to come back over over and over again...

Yep, he fed me lies and then didn't even remember that he lied through his teeth...

3. Nickname; Bragging rights, Age: mid 40's

I prefer older men, I like to think they have their life more put together and wants a relationship more than the younger men (younger than 30 would). So when i got this type of message from somebody in their 40's, I was quite surprised.

Introduction: Have you ever been with a black man before? You know what they say about black men? I don't think you can take me. I'm bigger than any man you had before I bet. Want to give it a try...

Yeah keep telling yourself that...

4. Creep. Age: mid twenties

There is nothing like when you check your account and see that one person had sent ten messages. You open them and find out that all ten was of them sending dirty messages like detailed sexual messages, one right after the over. You exit the site and come back and see that he did it again. And finally, he apologies and says it was a joke and he really likes you.

Yep...that makes up for that

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Thoughts:

There is one thing I want to say, Although I had some bad experiences with the site, I also found some really awesome individuals. Some of which I ended up being friends with and still talk with to this day. So I know there are a lot of really nice individuals on the site. I just have to find out what I am doing wrong so we can find each other.

One word of advice I can give: the questions you answer can define the quality of users you attract. I realized when I answered only relationship questions (can you date a messy person, do you find hard working a good quality) you tend to get a lot more hits from people who want relationships. If you answer a lot of the sexual answers than you will attract more people who may attract more of those who are just looking for sex. So I hope that everybody else is having a better time than me when it comes to online dating and if not know that you are not alone. So don't give up on dating, one day you will find the perfect person, just keep on trying.